For color tastes, and you may tell me that this is not the case, but in my opinion, there are issues that are not as important as the previous ones.
Age . While it is true that some maturity is more likely to be found in a 40-year-old than in an 18-year-old, age is no guarantee of anything. One Dom can be extremely lucid at 22, and another Dom can be a jerk at 55.
Experience . That a Dom is learning is not at odds with being a good Dom. A person may have the ingredients to be a good Dom and not have been able to put them to the test due to the circumstances. If a sensible Dom is learning Shibari, he will not do anything to you that he does not control until he is completely sure that he is not going to pose any danger to you.
Physical . Physique matters,Black London Mistress of course, but in the end it matters the least of all. If your priority is to be dominated by a ham that ends up breaking your shoulder blade because it has no idea of anything, you will tell me where it is.
Red alerts to watch for when talking to a Dom
I’m not writing this post to make you paranoid, but you have to walk on lead. First of all, find someone honest and sensible and skip everything else.
These are some examples of situations that happen very often, and from which you should flee.
He demands that you treat him as Lord, Master or Master before discussing the limits and relationship that you are going to have, before meeting each other, or even during the first messages you send each other. This person wants you to submit for the simple fact of being submissive and he is dominant; if it is not agreed upon, this is a red alert like the crown of a pine tree. You don’t have to go around giving away Black London Mistress your submission to people who call themselves “dominant” and who you don’t even know; If you like the little game and it’s a matter of two, fine; If not, don’t be afraid to tell him that he is going to call him I love his holy mother.
He tells you that with him you will not need a safe word or limits . Well look, he does not have to decide; you have to decide. A Dom who boasts of his many years of experience and tries to convince a first-time or indecisive submissive to have no limits or safe word, is a ghost and a public danger, runs away from him.
He tells you that what you say, do or think does not matter, because he is the dominant and you are the submissive . What bullshit, what you think or feel is just as important as what the Dominant thinks or feels.
He tells you that he has 40 years of BDSM experience and has had 3,234 submissives . An authentic Dom will not try to convince you with his years of experience, but with his good sense, honesty and security.
It manipulates you to try to exceed your limits . There are what are called Soft Limits, which are limits that you are willing to try under certain circumstances, and there are Hard Limits, which are limits that you are not willing to test even in paint. No Dom should pressure or manipulate you to try to push your hard limits. Never.
Pretend that you are totally submissive before you meet . You have exchanged four messages by chat and he is already making plans, giving you orders and telling you what to wear. For the car, that is not normal.
He pretends to give you a whip session without knowing how to use it . First of all, head. If a Dom is inexperienced with the whip and wants to learn, he will tell you as is and you can decide whether or not to give it a try. If a “dom” tells you that he is an expert in handling the whip because “he has seen many documentaries about it” and wants to use it on you, flee like the plague.
He suggests you go to his apartment or a hotel as a first date . Maximum red alert. As a first contact, go to have coffee with him in a public place, and do not feel obliged to do anything sexual or anything submissive. You don’t owe this person anything, much less your submission; first you have to get to know yourself and assess whether it is really worth trying. A Dom will understand this perfectly, and in fact, will be valuing you in the same way. It is better that things flow without forcing them and without doing strange things.
He denies you information, drains the bullet, or disappears when you ask him important questions . Remember the issue of honesty. Both the Dom and the submissive have the right to have their private lives, but questions like: how many submissives have you had before? How many are you still in contact with? Have you been in a relationship without a condom recently? Do you use drugs or alcohol? These are important questions and the Dominant should not object to answering them. If you lie, run away like the plague.
He speaks to you in a rude way. If you have not given your permission to do so , it is insulting you offside and you should not tolerate it.
Final Tips For Finding a Black London Mistress
Use the bedesemera community . There is a small community in Spain, use it: ask, find out, ask for references and opinions about Doms.
Make submissive friends . Being able to talk with other submissives and consult issues with them will give you security, help you settle your ideas and solve your doubts. If a Dom gives you a bad feeling, talk to them.
Remember that you are not obligated to anything nor do you owe anything to any stranger . Engrave by fire that the fact of being submissive does not give others a green card to treat you with condescension, rudeness or rudeness.